Divorce Challenging Your Coping Skills? Try This Technique For Instant Relief and Inspiration
Coping with all the different aspects of a divorce is no easy feat. The consensus seems to be no matter what side of the issue you are on it is one of life's most painful events. If not painful, then it is certainly challenging and disruptive. And it's all coming at you in a rush.
You can help yourself cope better by using methods that will help you keep your feet on the ground, especially during a particularly challenging moment. One of the methods I like to use I call, Pass-To-Win.
The concept behind this technique is similar to what happens to you on many games when you land on a certain spot. Land on this spot – and you are sent someplace else. Often you earn a few additional points, and maybe even a few gold coins you can cash in later. This is a nice trick. But, the concept doesn't have to be confined to games. You can use it to help you deal with difficult situations as they arise during your divorce.
How it works is easy. You build your “token” yourself. Pinch your thumb and index finger together gently; just let them touch. Now say to yourself, “I am at peace with my universe. This too will pass. I strive for harmony and balance in all things.” Now let go and open your fingers. Again, close your fingers, repeat the above to yourself, then let go. Repeat until you have it memorized. Now, every time that something happens today that troubles you, whether it's people, circumstances, or your own thoughts, press your thumb and index finger together gently, and mentally take yourself to a new spot in your heart and mind using your “pass to win” phrase.
You don't have to limit yourself to the example I used. Feel free to come up with your own inspirational phrase.
“I am a special and unique person. I attract the positive and repel the negative. I stay balanced during difficult times;”
or,
“I am surrounded in God's love. I am safe in his love. I seek harmony and balance in all things.”
The possible combinations are limitless, so pick and choose whatever combination of inspirational messages you feel would work best for you.
You can make your inspirational phrase longer or shorter, as long as you can think of it easily when you need to, on a moment's notice. Try to keep your inspirations in the first person, so they start with “I.”
You can even have more than one! When you touch your earlobe, rub your arm, wiggle your toes – all are possibilities. In fact the possibilities are endless; you simply tailor them to your specific circumstances. “Pass to win” mental tokens can even help you in other areas of your life, too. Touch your nose, and come up with one today!
Deb White invites you to read more at http://divorcedailydollops.blogspot.com Deb specializes in helping people cope with a challenging or painful divorce. At her site you can find daily coping advice, articles, books, and specialty items to help you overcome obstacles and achieve successful outcomes.
